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6.0 Clock Hours Home Study Recorded Video

6.0 Hour Continuing Education Credits are provided as a recorded video session if you pass the post-test following the course video content. The certificate of completion will be emailed to you within 10 minutes after passing the post-test.

Content Areas: Counseling Theory/Practice and the Counseling Relationship Social and Cultural Foundations Assessment Wellness and Prevention

Relationships impact our lives in every aspect. Part of having healthy relationships is to be able to understand and identify unhealthy patterns in ourselves and others. Patterns in abusive relationships and codependency goes far beyond someone who suffers from an addiction. The focus of the workshop is to break down these patterns within the relationship including self-esteem, trust, boundaries, risk taking, and conflict resolution. Over the course of a day, you will be introduced to how the scientific research has changed our understanding of these patterns and the treatment models for codependency.

The seminar reviews the current areas of research and theories of codependent relationships, patterns in abusive relationships, and Dependent Personality Disorder including diagnosis, causes, treatment. The brief history of codependency, common misconceptions, and misdiagnosis will be discussed.

Abusive relationships tend to follow patterns for behaviors, underlying emotional needs, and cognitive distortions related to those patterns. Important topics and skills for helping clinicians and their clients identify these patterns and their underlying causes will be reviewed. This comprehensive course will review the evidence and breakthroughs provided by research as well as undoing past misconceptions and errors in past research on codependency.

Areas of focus for the course will include the development and use of codependency, understanding Dependent Personality Disorder, attachment styles, and using tools with clients. Practice on using specifically the wheel of power and control, the four horsemen, the love languages, and the sound relationship house will be completed. Identifying common problems with problems with transference with those with dependent traits will be discussed as well as peer discussion of case vignettes. Steps for recent research on treatment/symptom management will be broken down into obtainable steps with time to discuss complications.

This course will complete an overview of the most common questions to use for clients to be able to help you better directly address the underlying problems by using the therapeutic alliance rather than at its cost. In digestible and simple terms, ways of approaching the subject with analogy and exploring values through pointed questions will be reviewed as well. The seminar was be presented through zoom and included time for questions, practicing skills, and interacting with others in the course.


Objective 1) Learner will be able to identify the definition of dependency and codependency

Objective 2) Learner will be able to understand the purpose of using roles in relationships as part of patterns in relationships

Objective 3) Learner will be able to identify at least five of the eight diagnostic criteria of DPD and one common impact of symptoms

Objective 4) Learner will be able to use objectifiable measurements in unhealthy dependent emotional needs and behaviors

Objective 5) Learners will be able to identify patterns in healthy relationships

Objective 6) Learner will be able to identify 5 family relationship styles as part of fostering dependent behavior

Objective 7) Learner will be able to identify at least one intervention for addressing feelings and behaviors of unhealthy dependency Workshop Outline

1) History (Objective 1 and 2)

    a) Early History

        a. Models of evaluation

        b. Using definitions in research and the field

    b) Mid 20th Century

    c) Late 20th Century

        a. Toxic personalities

        b. Unhelpful labeling and positive understandings

        c. Misconceptions

    d) The difference between Codependency and Dependent Personality Disorder

    e) The Takeaway

    f) Discussion: Why do roles exist?

2) DSM diagnosis (Objective 3 and 4)

    a) Definitions

    b) Introducing the DSM

    c) What is Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)

    d) What is Codependency

    e) DSM criteria for DPD

        a. Quick notes about diagnosis

        b. Dr. Todd Grande a comprehensive review

    f) Measurement

       a. The Dependent Personality Questionnaire (DPQ) (Tyrer et al., 2004)

       b. The Holyoake Codependency Index (HCI) (Dear & Roberts, 2000)

       c. Spann-Fischer Codependency Scale (SF CDS; Spann, Fischer, & Crawford, 1991; α = .80).

     g) Causes (Nature or Nurture)

     h) The Takeaway

      i) Discussion: The Terminally Ill Patient

3) Understanding Relationships Styles/Attitudes (Objectives 5 and 6)

    a) Identifying healthy vs unhealthy (the blurry line)

    b) Attachment styles

        a. Model of self and others

        b. Love Attitudes Scale

        c. “Perfect” relationships

    c) Codependency and misdiagnosis/labeling

    d) Unhealth Relationships

         a. Wheel of Power and Control

         b. Cycle of Abuse

         c. Four Horsemen

    e) Healthy Relationships

        a. Love Languages

        b. Sound Relationship House

     f) What is Love?

    g) Family Styles

        a. The Enabler

        b. The Hero

        c. The Scapegoat

        d. The Lost Child

        e. The Mascot

     h) The Takeaway

     i) Discussion: Possessiveness, interdependence vs codependence?

4) Leaving the Lab: Addiction, DPD, and Codependency (Objective 7)

    a) Definitions

    b) The Cycle/Problems

    c) Identifying codependency

    d) Treatment

        a. Prodependence

        b. Professional help

        c. The tarp roof

    e) ASK documentary and discussion questions

    f) The Takeaway

    g) Discussion: What will you remember?

    h) Further readings

5) Questions and Answers

Other Course Information: Partial credit/partial attendance is not allowed for this course.

If you have any questions about this course or would like to request accommodations, you can contact us If a participant or potential participant would like to express a concern about the or a continuing education program provided by, the individual may email Although we do not guarantee a particular outcome, we will consider the complaint, make any necessary decisions, and respond as soon as possible. If you have any questions regarding a refund, you can view our policy page and legal notices found at the bottom of this webpage or you can contact us


National Provider Number (NPI): 1417308024

Washington State License Number: LH60827185

Leo DeBroeck, MS, LMHC, CMHS, MHP is Child Mental Health Specialist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington State. He is CBT Plus certified through the University of Washington and Harborview Sexual Assault and Traumatic Stress Center. He has worked full-time at a community health center as a Mental Health therapist with a team of other Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists. he has previous experience working with children and adolescents at an intensive inpatient program in Spokane, Washington for several years. He has completed his Masters of Science in clinical psychology with his thesis on factors in suicide. He has published scientific research on young adults related to suicidality. He writes and has published children's therapy books for use in counseling settings. These are published on Amazon, for use in therapy settings addressing grief, addiction, neglect, abuse, self-confidence and others. He is the president and founded an LLC called Counselor's Choice Award that reviews counseling products and therapeutic tools. This also offers Continuing Education Courses. He has taught Continuing Education courses throughout the United States of America, Australia, Canada, and the United Kingdom. He has worked in several different levels of care for mental health treatment including long-term inpatient care, WISe wraparound intensive services, school-based therapy services, and outpatient clinical settings.

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